Embracing Release and Letting Go

Has there ever been a time in your life when you realized you needed to let go of a person or a situation, but didn't know how? I've been there. Join me, Kerry, as I walk you through my journey of releasing and letting go. It's a journey filled with raw emotions, courage, and ultimately, liberation. You'll learn about my personal methods such as journaling and connecting with groups of like-minded people. And yes, we'll also tackle the tough subject of relationship expiration dates. By the end of this riveting conversation, you'll find solace in a powerful quote from Miss Audre Lorde that underlines the strength and audacity we possess when we decide to let go.

Chapters

• 0:00 Release and Letting Go
• 9:22 Podcast Updates and Affirmations

Transcript

Kerry: 0:00

Hello and welcome to the Melanin Unicorn Podcast, a weekly podcast that is dedicated to the upliftment of Black women. I'm your host, kerry, and thank you for tuning in. Please rate, review, and subscribe from whichever streaming platform that you're listening to this from. And now let's dive into the show. Today's episode is titled Release and Letting Go.

Kerry: 0:38

Release and let go To release is to detach yourself from something or someone. Let go is making the release final. There is no going back. This is the definition from dictionarycom. When did you realize that it was time to release? Is it after the umpteenth time of being disrespected, set aside, mishandled or forgotten? When do you realize it is time to let go? When you lay your head down at night or when you wake up in the morning, how and when the epiphany hits you doesn't matter. What matters is you have gotten up from the table and walked right out the door. Some of you may be nice and close it behind you, and then some of you may leave the door wide open. Yup, that would be me.

Kerry: 1:33

For many of us Black women, we have grown up seeing some things and it has shaped us in some way, and it doesn't matter if you grew up poor or rich. The things we have seen and heard have made us hold on to these experiences or take things in we should never have. Because of this, many of us have seen toxic relationships, whether it is with family, friends, jobs, etc. So we are immersed in the slime and don't even realize it because it has been normalized. One of the biggest things we have all witnessed is the meteoric rise of social media and what it has shown to the world the unamused disrespect shown towards Black women, and it is heartbreaking to see. Unfortunately, until I would detriment, this has been normalized on the big stage. We have to learn to leave the table when love is no longer being served,

Kerry: 2:39

Nina Simone. it is time to release and let go. Release and let go is so powerful. We often cling to our desires and fight for them because we think we'll be happy if we don't get what we want. But when we let go and accept, what is what shows up for us are often the things that we need. These things tend to be the ones that really count, creating true happiness and meaning in our lives.

Kerry: 3:14

Tiny Buddha, what I've come to understand and learn is that you cannot receive the blessings that are due to you if you keep looking behind. Many of us stay looking backward and stumbling over every rock, nook and cranny. It's time. It's time. Looking and moving forward doesn't mean that you won't stumble or fall, but you will get up.

Kerry: 3:43

You have heard the same stories, the same apologies, and then I'm going to do better speeches. They will not change. If they have been disrespecting you all this time, just because you have shut them down doesn't mean they are going to go along with it. If you have to block people on your phone, social media and emails, do it. If you have to change the locks, change the security system password or move to another apartment, home, state or, heck, even out of the country, do it. If you need to get restraining orders against family members, exes, friends, jobs, do it, because here's what we're going to do. We are no longer going to be blocking our blessings. It is time for you and I to start walking in our blessings. It is time for us to surround ourselves with like-minded women who are moving forward in their lives. We should join groups where we share the same interests.

Kerry: 5:01

One of the things that I've done is I've really started journaling a lot. I have like five different books no kidding that, I'm writing different things and I'm seeing that the blockages that I've had, that I didn't even know what blockages, are falling away. So you start journaling and so you can get your thoughts on paper. So once you start writing down your visions, you are making it plain for your realities to shine through. Your blessings have been waiting for you to invite them in, open your door wide, releasing those who hurt and betrayed you, understanding that some relations, they have expiration dates.

Kerry: 5:55

And I know that that's hard, that's hard for us women because we have attachments, we form attachments, and I know that there was a friendship that I had to release and let go and it was hard, it was very hard, it was painful, because I've known this sister for many, many years and you know you don't think that relationships that you've had for that long, friendships, sisterhoods have an expiration date, but some of them do, and this particular relationship did have an expiration date. I didn't want to either acknowledge it or I just wanted to keep it going and it was not helpful for me, it was not nurturing, it was not a blessing for me. The relationship, the sisterhood, had an expiration date and it was time for me to let that go, and I did, by the grace of God. I did because I'm learning that I can't take everyone with me. I would love to, but the truth of the matter is I cannot and you can't. So we have to realize that letting people go is not anything against you. It's just time to let those things go, because we can't take everybody with us and that's really the bottom line. No matter how much we desire to, we just can't. So where did we go from here?

Kerry: 8:00

I found the quote from that I would like to share with you, from Miss Audre Lorde, who was a poet, essayist, a librarian, a womanist, a radical feminist, a professor, philosopher and a civil rights activist. She said when I did, it be powerful to use my strength in the service of my vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid, and it becomes less important whether you're afraid when it's time to release and let go. Just know that the fear is going to be there, but also know that you take your power back when you release and let go of people, places, and things that are no longer serving you, because when you let those things go, you open yourself up to receive your blessings, and that's what I want for us, that's what I want to you, that's what I want for me, that's what I want for everyone who is listening to this podcast, and I just really want to thank you for tuning into this episode. It means a lot to me. I'm so appreciative.

Kerry: 9:22

Show notes will be available on Buzzsprouts. You can follow the show on Instagram at the Melanin Unicorn podcast, and also you can tune in for Affirmation Wednesdays, where I share an affirmation to keep us moving forward, and I will see everyone back here soon. And remember you are love, you are excellent, you are beautiful, you are well, you are safe and, most importantly, you are you. I will talk to you soon. Bye.