The Melanin Unicorn Podcast
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The Melanin Unicorn Podcast
You're Worthy of Love, Honor, Respect and Success
You’ve been told to hustle for your value. Today, we flip that script and root into a deeper truth: you were born worthy, and no metric, milestone, or opinion can grant or revoke what you already are. Kerry guides a grounded journey from external validation to inner authority, inviting us to breathe, reflect, and choose practices that honor our inherent worth.
We explore how cultural pressures and social feeds make worth feel conditional, and we replace that noise with simple, powerful actions. You’ll learn how to set clear boundaries at work and at home, celebrate the small wins that actually build momentum, and curate people, media, and spaces that support a healthy mind. We also reframe failure from a dead end into data for your next attempt, turning missteps into markers of growth and resilience.
To anchor the shift, Kerry leads a short affirmation practice—statements you can return to whenever self-doubt speaks too loudly: I am worthy of love. I am worthy of respect. I am worthy of success. My worth is not defined by others. I am enough just as I am. Expect practical takeaways delivered with warmth and clarity, plus a gentle nudge to treat yourself like someone you love.
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Hey tribe, and welcome back to another episode of the Melanin Unicorn Podcast. Black women, my sisters, my fellow queens, this is your safe space for growth, self-discovery, and empowerment. I'm your host, Kerry, and today we're diving into a topic that resonates deeply with every human being, and that is your innate worthiness. Whether you're listening while driving, taking a walk, or just relaxing at home, I want you to pause for a moment and take a deep breath. Hold for 4. And release. And that is you are worthy of love, honor, respect, and success. Not because of what you do, but because of who you are. Let's start the episode. Why worthiness feels elusive for so many of us? Let's start with a question. Have you ever caught yourself thinking I'll feel worthy when? Maybe when you hit a certain milestone, you get that promotion or find that perfect relationship. It's so common to tie our sense of worthiness to external achievements. Because society tells us work harder, achieve more, grind, grind, grind, hustle, hustle, hustle, and then you'll deserve it. But here's the truth: worthiness isn't earned, it's inherent. You were already born worthy. So why does it feel so elusive? Because we've conditioned ourselves to measure against impossible standards. Hint, hint, social media. And when we don't measure up, we start to believe the lie that we are not enough. But today, we are going to break free from that mindset. And if it doesn't happen for you today, let it be a gradual work over time. I am enough just as I am. Let's think about the people that you love the most. Do you love them for their accolades or their achievements? Of course you don't. You love them for their hearts, their quirks, their essence. Now, let's turn that love inward. What would it look like if you treated yourself with the same compassion you offer to others? To recognize that your value isn't tied to what you've accomplished, but simply to the fact that you exist. You are already enough. You are already deserving right here, right now, Queen. And I want you to repeat that to yourself. I am already enough. I am already deserving right here and right now. So now that we have embraced the truth, and for others, you may be beginning to start to embrace this truth, let's talk about how we can reflect it in our lives starting today. Setting boundaries. Boundaries are an act of self-love. Celebrating your wins, big and small. Did you take a step toward your goal today? Celebrate that. Did you take time to rest and recharge? Let me tell you something. That's a win, too. Surround yourself with love and positivity. Be intentional about the energy that you are allowing into your life. The people, the environments, the media you consume, it all shapes how you view yourself. Reframe failures. Remember, failure doesn't define you. It's just a step in the process of success. Your worth is not diminished by mistakes, it's deepened by resilience. So let's recap. Setting boundaries, knowing your worth, and no longer tolerating disrespect, whether it is on your job, whether it's in within your family, or how you talk to yourself disrespectfully. I need for you to start reframing, reframing how you speak to yourself. Because when you reframe how you speak to yourself in such a positive and powerful manner, you will no longer allow anybody else to disrespect you. Celebrating your wins, big and small. This was this was a big thing for me because I never understood celebrating small wins. I was always waiting for those great big wins. And one of my sister friends challenged me and she said, stop waiting for the big things to come into your life. Celebrate the small wins too, because they are just important. She told me, listen, journal your small wins too. And she said, and when you have a small win, treat yourself. What? Do you like cupcakes? A slice of cake? Lord knows that is my weakness. Um, things that you could do for yourself that lets you know that, hey, it's not only the big things I'm waiting for, I'm celebrating the small wins too. Because what that does, it activates your mind and it activates your body, and then it gets on board with you celebrating, even when you just have only a small win. So, yes, celebrate your big wins, but don't neglect your small wins either. Surround yourself with love and positivity. We need to be very, very intentional about who we allow into our life, the environments that we find ourselves in, the media for sure, because if you are only consuming news every single day, every hour, every minute, every second, guess what? Where is the love? Where is the positivity? It's not there because you are being constantly bombarded with negative language, negative pictures, negative feeds. You need to, you need to change that. And the same thing goes for the people. If the people that you're hanging out with, everything is negative for them. Everything is negative, everything is wrong. Um these people are doing me wrong. Um, I'm, you know, people are always after me. You will begin to adopt that same spirit because that's who you are hanging around with all the time, right? So it could be family, it could be friends, it could be the people on your job. Take notice, pull out that magnifying glass and start looking who in this circle, who in these circles, that it is always negative. It is always the woe is me. Take stock and then begin to cut those relationships off. Okay. And also, and I may have said it too, where are you spending time at? Check those environments. Because again, if it's a lot of if it's a lot of craziness, things that make you feel uneasy, you know, like it makes it makes your heart race or it makes you feel clammy, but hey, this is where all the people are hanging out at. Um, this is where I can possibly meet my man. You know, please excuse the motorcycle going by. I can meet my man. This is maybe this is where the relationship. Listen, check the environment. And if it's not lining up to where you are positioning yourself, then it is time for you to exit stage left. Okay? And reframing failures. You know, for so long, many of us were taught like a failure was like that, was the end of the line. If you failed at something, it was over. It was literally a wrap. And that is untrue. Again, you know, we can't fault the people who've taught us this because they were taught that. But failure does not mean, oh, it's over, it's the end of the line. Failure is actually setting you up for success, right? Because now you are learning. So the reframing is learning. Okay, so I did X, Y, and Z. It didn't work out. Okay, that's fine. So now I need to do A, B, and C. Okay. It's old failure brings us with each step closer and closer to our successes. So never look at failure as a negative. Look at failure. Begin to start seeing failure as a positive because it essentially means that you are moving closer and closer to your success. So before we close, let's take a moment for an affirmation. I'll say a few phrases, and then I want you to repeat them out loud or in your mind. Let's begin. I am worthy of love. I am worthy of respect. I am worthy of success. My worth is not defined by others. I am enough just as I am. Take a deep breath in hold for four and release. Now let those words sink in. Thank you, and thank you for spending this time with me today. My hope is that you leave this episode feeling lighter, more empowered, and deeply rooted in the truth of your worthiness. If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who needs a little reminder of their own worth. And don't forget to subscribe and leave a review. Plus, if you have your own stories of worthiness to share, please send me a DM. I would love to read them. And until next time, remember that you are worthy of all of the love, the honor, the respect, and success. And have the most incredible, remarkable, and magical day because that is what you deserve. I love you, and until our next episode, take care of yourself. Bye.
